Self help is sort of a buzzword these days. Everything is about self help. There are self help groups where you meet with others and that helps yourself. Well, today I want to talk about a different kind of self help.
Let’s start by talking about being nice to others.
Have you ever noticed that when you are nice to others, it makes you feel good? On the flip side, I have also found that if I am mean to others, I tend to feel bad, have a negative attitude about most everything in my life, etc. Have you noticed that too?
I was wondering why that is, and the more I kept thinking about it, the more curious I got. I was doing some research about it and came across a video on YouTube which kind of explains the science of what I am talking about. have a look:
Well, we really don’t need a scientific explanation to know that we just feel good when we help others or offer kindness to others. The science may help us understand why, but the feeling that we get inside is enough to really help us know that it works.
So, the way I see it, if we start trying to be more kind, we will feel better and be happier, that is a good thing, right? But, did you notice that the video said that even the people watching our kindness will feel better too? They will probably start spreading some kindness as well, and those who watch them will start too! It’s a big snowball effect!
So, that snowball effect that I mentioned is called “going viral” because it will spread like a virus! Pretty cool, huh? And, the way it works, the kindness goes viral, which means that the good feelings go viral too!
I have to admit that sometimes I do like to preform random acts of kindness that are totally unexpected, and performed on complete strangers. It really makes me feel so god when I do that, and in fact if I think about it too much, it actually makes me feel guilty!
I know you are wondering why I would feel guilty about being kind. Well, the reason is, I wonder if it is selfish of me to be kind because I might be doing it simply to make myself feel good, instead of doing it to make the recipient of my kindness feel good. Kind of strange to think that way. Really, who cares, we are both getting the benefit, and it is my hope that the recipient of my kindness will pay it forward by being kind to others as well!
Wanna help? How about performing a couple of acts of kindness yourself today?