Having friends is a good thing.
Having friends is an important thing.
I have a lot of friends in my life. Some friends are more important than others. Some friends are like family. Actually, I guess, some friends are even closer than family. There’s an old saying that friends are the family that you get to choose. With family, you’re born with them, whether you like it or not. With friends, you certainly get to choose, and even choose which friends are the very close ones.
I have a very close friend, Bebe. Yesterday morning she sent me a text message telling me that her mother was very sick and was near death. I told her that I was so sorry that her mother was sick and that I would keep her in my thoughts. My friend told me that both her mother and the rest of the family were ready for the pending death, because the illness was very bad. Last night I got news that her mother had died. It was very sad news, but as that earlier text had said, it was expected. But, even death that is expected is not easy.
I sent several messages to my friend last night, and she knew that I was thinking about her. I was unable to go see her last night, because I was also away at an activity for one of my children. But we did communicate via text message. This morning, I went to Facebook and left a message for my friend there as well. While I was on my friend’s Facebook page, I noticed that she had ” like” one of my Facebook pages. Now, this was a page that really my friend had no interest in. But, she liked it because she is my close friend, and she was supporting me. Of course, I was also supporting her by leaving a message on her Facebook page regarding the death of her mother. It was at that point, that I realized, friendship is a two-way street. We do things to support our friends, especially the close ones. And for me, this particular friend is a very close friend. Over the years, I know that I have done many things to support this friend. Maybe it was just a kind word, maybe some more substantial type of help. Whatever it was that I could do to help her I always did it. And she has always done the same for me as well. Not in financial ways, but just on a personal level. This friend has always, always been very supportive of me.
Over the years, I have said many times that this particular friend is like a sister to me. I don’t have a real sister, I used to, but she passed away at a young age. That’s one reason why this particular friend has been very special to me.
After my experience this morning of visiting my friend’s Facebook page and feeling our two-way system of support for each other, it really drove home the point to me how special a friend she is.
It’s important for all of us remember that friendship is a two-way street. If we want a friend to be close to us, we also have to be close to them. We have to do a weekend to support our friends, and you can be sure that if they truly are a close friend they will do what they can to support you as well.
Yes, having friends is a good thing. Offering support for your friend, whatever type of support it may be, is an important habit to get into.